A powerful technique for reframing negative thoughts - Katie Carswell

If you want to create, grow and sustain a successful business you are going to have to exercise radical self trust. every. single.day.

Fear will try to stop you and keep you safe.

Your thoughts will tell you bad things, your mind will try to lead you astray, convince you that others are doing better, that you are not cut out for this, you need to try something different, that this is not working.

It’s lying! And you need to look for all of the evidence contrary to what your mind says. You need to stop believing everything your mind churns out as truth

Remember, you are not the thinker of your thoughts, you are the one that observes them.

Your mind is like a hard drive and if that hard drive is programmed with negativity, scarcity and fear, that’s the program it will play, over and over and over. It doesn’t mean it’s true, it just means you need to wire in some new programming.

How do you do that?

You simply remind yourself of that over and over again, that you are not your thoughts, that the negative ones are not true and you change your thoughts to more positive and supportive ones.

Here’s the technique I use [adapted from the self coaching model by Brooke Castillo]

Answers the questions below to uncover and reframe any negative thoughts you are having, I have filled in the answers to give you an example of how this works:

What is the negative thought you keep thinking?

I can’t get any clients, nobody wants to work with me, I’m never going to make a go of this, why can’t I do this!!!

What feeling does that thought create?

It makes me feel bad, that I’m not good enough, that I doubt myself and my abilities.That my business is going to fail.

How do you behave when you feel like that?

I want to hide away from the world. I want to give up and run away but I also feel paralysed. I don’t feel like I have anything valid to say or share. I play small.

What is the result of that action?

I don’t put myself out there, I don’t show my full potential to people and share what I am passionate about. I hate talking about what I do, because I don’t really believe in myself, I feel vulnerable, so I don’t get any new clients.

How does your result prove your original thought? (and keep this cycle perpetuating!)

I can’t get any clients so it feeds my belief that nobody wants to work with me!!!

What is a more empowered positive thought you can have (that is believable to you?)

I am really good at what I do! There are loads of people out there that I can help and that want to work with me.

What feeling does that thought create?

It makes me feel excited. Really pumped up to get out there and tell people what I do and how I can help them.I love what I do, I just want to share it with the world.

How do you behave when you feel that?

I show up more consistently, I am upbeat and happy and confident to tell people what I do.

What is the result of that action?

I am more likely to attract new clients because I am more visible and my energy is more empowered, so people are more attracted to me.I am more open to all of the opportunities there are out there.

What thoughts do you therefore choose to keep/think?

There are loads of people out there that I can help and that want to work with me!!

This might seem laborious at first, but this is the difference between starting your day in an empowered or disempowered way. Having a morning ritual in place, where you can do this short exercise every day, can really help set you up for the best day possible. This is the difference between you running your day, or the day running you.

Learning to trust yourself is a huge part of the entrepreneurial journey, learning to trust yourself and your decisions, every single day.

Not making ‘failure’ mean something about you or anything, other than the insights it can give you.

Trusting that you are on the right path, that this is a process, a journey and you are fully committed to it.

Not comparing yourself to others who are further along, or looking externally to see what you ‘should’ be doing in your business.

Committing to managing your mindset every single day. Commit to listening to your own wisdom, make bold decisions and stick to them.

To stay in your own lane.

Learning to trust yourself can be hard but it’s a vital piece of running your own business and growing it in a way that is aligned to you, your values and your version of success, making sure it is completely sustainable by doing so.

If you are ready to make 2022 the year that changes everything for you and to get some support to find your way of doing business, then I would love to help you. I guide my clients to create, grow and sustain a business that is 100% aligned to you and your vision of success. I lead you to find the most empowered way to do it. I coach my clients 1:1, with face to face zooms and unlimited voice note/email access, you will not find a more nurturing, intimate and supportive container for you to grow, thrive and discover your way. You can read more here

Katie xx

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